Slutty

So wrong but feels sooo right.

Have you ever fallen for someone in the most wrongest of ways? Like say falling for your sister-in-law, your best friend's wife, your client, a married friend, a colleague? Basically falling for someone that will most definitely get everyone's tongues wagging..

Or have you fallen for someone in the most inappropriate way? Like a man who has an expectant wife, a business associate, a boss, someone in a rival company? Basically falling for someone who will in some or many ways jeopardise your current situation such as your career, your status, your friends etc.

In recent days, the online community has been abuzz with the Rowena Chen case. In case you don't already know, the story goes like this. Man marries woman and they're happy, according to the wife. Man gets wife pregnant and goes overseas to work in Geneva. Man goes with colleague and ends up falling for colleague. After 3mths, man leaves wife and his unborn child for the other woman. Wife is upset and blogs about the whole fiasco. Unexpectedly, the online community picks up the story and i think just e whole world will know abt her story.

Anyways, i've read so many forums and blogs tt oh my, this is like another Tammy case without the sex. But that aside, i'm kinda sitting on e fence on this.

I am prompted to write this cuz im kinda involved in something almost similar just that erm e parties involved are not married and i ain't pregnant. No no sweetheart..And no im not snatching anyone's other half. I hope not!

I find it interesting how everyone blames that Rowena girl..whoever she is be it a Citi banker or a Barclay banker. I find it amazing how everyone also blames the husband. I find it even more amazing how almost NOBODY blames the wife.

I bet my last sentence is so gonna get some hate remarks but i don't really care. This is my blog and Im just stating my thoughts on this.

I've read so many blogs and the other woman and gerald have been repeatedly attacked. Sometimes i feel it's so easy to blame the other cheating parties.

And it doesnt help that majority of those accusing these 2 parties either don't know these pple personally or don't know the full story.

I don't know the full story either and I dont think i ever will.

But in such a case, everyone is right and everyone is wrong.

Everyone is right to pursue what they want. We might never know tt perhaps it IS true that Gerald was pressurised by his wife to have the baby. Perhaps he is being blackmailed by the other woman to stay with her. Perhaps he is having lots of problems with this wife. We will never know cuz HE doesnt have a blog unlike his wife. I might not be a guy but i do know for sure tt men unlike women, hardly bitch or share very personal problems with their mates. Perhaps it's an ego thing, i wouldnt know - but how many men do u know go around telling his friends his problems at home?

As it is, men are already compelled to perform at work and at home. In many ways, a man's capability and success is based on his career and love life. I think it's a lil unfair to blame Gerald and Rowena (the other woman) totally.

What if the wife had blogged only the good things? We didnt read about her bad points. Let's face it, we're all being biased here cuz she claims to be PREGNANT. I am not doubting her pregnancy..just tt i havent seen e pics or know her personally. I am just highlighting the possibilities.

Besides, what's the use of Gerald returning to his wife when he already feels tt way? If he had wanted and thot of working things out, he would have already done so. I doubt a blog written by his wife is gonna make him wake his ideas up and realise tt he suddenly needs to go back to being a good guy. (tho honestly i must admit, he has got one helluva 'come beat me up' face” ) I dont think it's gonna be healthy for him to return back to his wife and resent her, and the baby just cuz of what the public feels of their situation.

I am a nobody in their situation but I think that it is not right to wash your dirty linen in public. Imagine if you're Gerald and this comes to light cuz your wife blogs about it and now e whole of Singapore and maybe more, knows abt it? 

How would you really really feel?

I know this is mean but if I was Gerald, i wud honestly think twice about returning to my wife. I might have wronged but I dont think I can accept my wife telling the whole world I made a booboo. Men have ego, i dont think any guy would be happy to let everyone know abt this fiasco without his knowledge, and definitely not when his job is in the picture too.

I know there's a lot of controversy on tomorrow.sg publishing a re-make of the wife's blog by some unknown blogger. I am not gonna comment on that neither am I gonna comment on whether it was right or not for anyone to have come up with the blog or posted it on tomorrow.sg

All i can say is that for the wife to have blogged about it, she should have known that people would read it. Whether she has already locked it up or not, the fact that she blogged abt such personal issues and  put up her husband's photos is wrong in itself. I dont think it's right for her to 'tell' Rowena that if she has problems with her husband, she should grow up and talk to him. Well, is blogging openly with pics of her husband considered growing up and working things out properly?

These are just my comments..I don't mean to hurt anyone or blame anyone. I am just saying that in all affairs, EVERYONE is always in the wrong. It's easy for outsiders to blame certain parties but everything happens for a reason.

And for the wife, I do feel sorry for her if she is really pregnant but 2 wrongs don't make any right.

:(